For the family caregiver

You didn't apply.
Apparently, you got the job.

Apparently, I'm the Caregiver
A practical guide to caring for aging parents without losing yourself.

By Graham Ellery

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Kindle · Paperback · Hardcover · Free first-week checklist →

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A LITTLE CLARITY FOR A LOT OF RESPONSIBILITY.

32 practical chapters39 illustrationsScripts, worked examples & reusable toolsU.S. focused

For the decisions
in front of you.

One day you're helping with an appointment. Before long, you're comparing pill lists, negotiating with siblings, and discovering that the forms have forms. This handbook helps you organize the next step while keeping your parent's choices—and your limits—in view.

01 / GET YOUR BEARINGS

The first days

Build a care notebook, prepare appointment questions, understand the discharge plan, and turn offers of help into specific tasks.

02 / MAKE CARE WORK

The everyday work

Explore home safety, dementia care, long-distance caregiving, hiring help, housing choices, and questions about paying for care.

03 / KEEP YOURSELF IN THE PLAN

Love and limits

Find language for sibling responsibilities, boundaries, work, respite, hospice, and grief. You don't have to do everything to care.

A useful place to begin

Make the next step
small enough to take.

Start with one page and one conversation. These free planning resources draw on the book's approach: clarify the task, agree who will do it, and decide what happens if the plan changes.

Get the first-week checklist →

Before the next family call

  1. Ask what your parent wants help with.
  2. Name one task that needs an owner.
  3. Agree on a time and a backup.

A promise of help gets more useful when everyone knows what it means.

The 15-minute family meeting →

A free printable agenda to turn one uncovered task into an agreed plan. Includes invitation wording.

Five ways to offer useful help →

For friends and relatives: specific messages to adapt, copy and send. No signup.

Your weekly caregiver plan →

A blank printable worksheet for tasks, agreed owners, check-in times, and backups. No signup.

Read before you choose →

Explore the opening of the book, including how to find the chapter for the decision in front of you.

Sharing care with siblings →

A practical conversation guide for dividing the work without leaving the details to one person.

Your first week as a caregiver →

A printable, seven-part checklist for appointments, family roles, information, and your own limits.

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About the author

Graham Ellery

Graham Ellery writes practical, compassionate guides for families navigating the work of caring for aging parents. Apparently, I'm the Caregiver combines clear explanations, everyday examples, useful questions, and a sense of humor about the paperwork. It keeps the older person's choices and the caregiver's limits in view.

Book and media contact: grahamellerybooks@outlook.com · Media & library information

A few useful answers

Who is this caregiving book for?

Adult children and family members caring for an aging parent, whether nearby or from a distance. Older adults receiving help are also invited into the conversation. The book respects their preferences and does not assume that a relative automatically has authority over their decisions.

Do I need to read it from start to finish?

No. Start with the chapter that matches the next decision. The book includes a topic finder and reusable tools, so you can return to a problem when it becomes relevant.

Does it include caregiver checklists and conversation scripts?

Yes. The book includes worked examples, reusable tools, and opening sentences for difficult conversations, alongside 32 chapters and 39 illustrations.

Do I need an app, subscription, or companion website?

No. You do not need an app, an account, or an additional purchase to use the book. The free resources on this promotional site are optional.

Does the book replace professional advice?

No. This is a general educational guide focused on the United States. Medical, legal, and financial decisions require guidance appropriate to the person and situation.

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